Myths & Facts

Fact: Though it’s commonly believed that infertility is a “women’s problem,” nothing is further from the truth. About 35 percent of all infertility cases treated in the world are due to a female problem. But 35 percent (an equal number!) can be traced to a male problem, 20 percent to a problem in both partners, and 10 percent to unknown causes.

Fact: Well-meaning friends and relatives may suggest “infertility is all in your head” or “if you’d stop worrying so much, you’d get pregnant.” But in reality, infertility is a disease or condition of the reproductive system and not a psychological disorder. In fact, one or more physical causes are identified in the vast number of infertile couples. So while relaxing, going on vacation, or finding positive ways to de-stress can improve your overall well-being, these lifestyle changes won’t solve your infertility problems.

Fact: This particular myth is not only painful for infertile couples to hear, but it’s also untrue. First of all, it suggests that adoption is simply a means to an end (a pregnancy), and not, in and of itself, a valid and wonderful way to form a family. Secondly, only about 5 percent of couples who do adopt later become pregnant. This success rate is the same for couples who don’t adopt and become pregnant without further treatment.

Fact: As stated earlier, infertility is a medical condition that affects both men and women equally. In fact, about 40 percent of the time, the male partner is either the sole or contributing cause of infertility, While many couples do find the process of infertility testing and treatment rigorous, stressful, and intrusive (not to mention costly), they do get through it together. Many partners also find new and deeper ways of relating to each other and discover that their marriage has become even stronger.

Fact: While it’s true that many woman conceive without difficulty, millions people of childbearing age in India or two or three in every 10 couples have problems with infertility. Certain health conditions and factors, such as age, can affect a woman’s ability to conceive. For instance, a healthy 30-year-old woman has about a 20 percent chance of getting pregnant each month; while by age 40, her chances drop to about 5 percent a month. But infertility can affect women of any age, and from any background.

Fact: New methods of diagnosing and treating infertility have improved many couples’ chances of having a baby, more than half of all couples who pursue treatment will achieve a successful pregnancy. On the other hand, it’s important to remember that infertility is a medical disease and that problems sometimes remain untreatable — no matter how hard a couple “works” at solving them.

Fact: Being unable to conceive a much-wanted child (or carry a pregnancy to term) can fill a couple with sadness, grief, anger, despair, and even a sense of personal failure. While it’s normal for infertile couples to experience a range of powerful emotions, most people do move through this life crisis successfully and gradually put it into better perspective. For some couples, “moving on” means letting go of their initial dreams of having a baby. Other couples decide to adopt. But in either case, couples do learn that there is life after infertility and find myriad ways to fulfill themselves with or without children.